Probably you’ve heard about it, but we’ll reiterate anyway. Your invites will set the tone and expectations of your wedding, which is why you need to master how to address
wedding invitations. The invitations you design provide the first glimpse or impression of the wedding you hope to have.
And though the invitations are incredibly crucial, not many people understand the wedding invitations etiquette. They have no clue how to navigate and address them.
Maybe, you might think that since the guests' list and a few other critical issues are okay, sending invitations will be hassle-free, but there’s no time to slack off. What with the wording, the numerous titles to remember, spell checks and the dates you’re expected to track.
You don’t want to provoke many questions regarding the invitation details. So, we have gathered 4 strong tips to acing the wedding invitations:
1. Get the Time Right
To nail your wedding invitations, be timely and create a sense of urgency. If your wedding isn’t a destination event, be sure to send the save-the-dates roughly 6 months before the D-day. Send the wedding invitations 8 weeks in advance.
For a destination wedding, send save-the-dates 8 months before the eve of the wedding. In this case, send the wedding invitations 12 months in advance. That way, your guests can make arrangements and mark their calendars.
By the way, the save-the-date is a courteous heads-up about the wedding date and not an actual invitation. Some of the people on your guest list might be disheartened and feel unvalued if they don’t receive an official invitation to the wedding. So, make sure that you count the printed invitations carefully when checking against your guest lists.
Lastly, on getting the date right, be careful not to confuse your need for keeping deadlines. For guest catering purposes, make sure you get your headcount about a month to the wedding when you've received sufficient responses, and not too early.
2. Include Any Key Info in Your Invitations
Without question, there’s key information that you must share with your guests in the wedding invitations. The name of the marrying couple, say the bride and bridegroom, the date, time, location and the recommended dress code are just the basics.
There’s more information to share with your guests. An invitation insert with your wedding’s website URL, rehearsal dinner details, RSVP card, and the contacts details of the hotel in which you’ve booked are of equal importance to your guests.
Besides, don’t forget to state the deadline for the return of RSVPs. You lay in the expectation that you'll enjoy the wedding eve. As such, you shouldn’t be worrying about how to deal with guests yet to return their RSVPs. Simplify the process set the return it at least 3 weeks before the wedding so you can create a proper seating chart, organize for catering and determine the size of your wedding.
3. Wedding Invitation Etiquette Matters
Addressing the envelopes in a painstaking process that demands lots of patience and keenness. You need to have a clear understanding of how to address wedding invitations, so you’re are as clear as possible. Specify to who precisely the invitation is addressed to avoid any confusion.
The rule of thumb is to ensure the outer envelope of the invitation is formal while the inner envelope can be informal. So, use full names and the right titles when addressing the recipients in the outer envelope. Leave out the title and go for the middle name if you’re close to the guest.
Let’s take a couple of scenarios:
- For a married couple, address them as Mr. John and Mrs. Samantha Holt or Mr. and Mrs. John Holt in the outer envelope. Go for Mr. and Mrs. Holt or John and Samantha for the inner envelope.
- Address the same-sex couple as Mrs. Christine Jade and Ms. Kate Hope or Christine Jade and Kate Hope in the outer envelope. In the inner envelope, Ms. Hope and Jade or Kate and Christine are fine.
- If there’s one married woman or two married doctors, the outer envelope should read Dr. Kate Hope and Mr. Gregory John. And if she uses her husbands’ name, the envelope should read Dr. Kate and Mr. Gregory John. For the inner envelope, go for Dr. Hope and Mr. John.
4. Trend Carefully When It Comes to the ‘Plus Ones’
What’s your ideal guest size list? Some couples are comfortable with their guests bringing a friend or date along. If you want to keep the wedding list short, come up with a rule and stick to it devoid of any exceptions.
State clearly if everyone is allowed to bring a date or go right ahead and limit it strictly to those very close or in serious relationships. The relationship statuses of the bridesmaids and the groomsmen don’t matter. You have to invite them together with their ‘plus ones.’
A few people may question your decision not to allow your attendees to bring additional guests. If it happens, let them see the reason for your desire to keep the wedding small and intimate.
In conclusion, etiquette matters and all every couple ought to learn how to address wedding invitations. Strive to keep your invitations as clear as possible to avoid any misunderstanding. Provide all the crucial information the guests may be interested in. Don't forget to keep track of the return of RSVPs so you can arrange for catering, seating arrangement, and the wedding size. It’s our hope that with the above tips, you’ll have a memorable wedding.